Welcome to the Tarot Blog Hop!
An international group of tarotists (check out the master list) are all writing on the same topic and then linking to each other so that the reader can hop from one blog to the next, seeing all the permutations and facets that the topic inspired in different writers. Today’s topic, from Morgan Drake Eckstein of Gleamings from the Golden Dawn, is “the ‘distasteful’ cards—the cards that evoke a strong negative reaction.”
Dealing the Distasteful
A friend and colleague yesterday was telling me how frustrated she was because lately her psychic abilities were off.
I took a quick look at her chart, and sure enough, with Mars in her sixth house opposite her Neptune in Scorpio, I told her yes, it will affect your work and it will last for a few more weeks. “What can I do about it?” she implored. My response to this kind of problem is always to integrate the problem planet instead of trying to repress it—I told her to take a more active rather than receptive approach to her readings; my initial thought was to use the cards more rather than just trying to be open to receiving the info. “I have had to rely more on the cards the past few weeks,” she confirmed.
She said she normally started off a reading with straight psychic info—this unfortunate transit and its temporary closing down of her psychic center was negatively impacting her usual format for her readings. I suggested she start with pulling a card instead—I teased that she could become an Angel card reader. Then we started joking around and I mimicked: “Today you have the Unicorn card. It is followed by the Rainbow Unicorn card. Next is the Frolicking Unicorn card! And now you have the Sleeping Unicorn card.”
There is a contingent of readers out there who appeal to the client who does not want answers or an in-depth problem-solution exploration, but who just wants some hand-holding and hugs. Not to bash hugs! And certainly there are times for each of us when we know what the problems are and simply want a good friend to give us an atta-girl and send us on our way.
But most tarot readers have found that having a full selection of representative images of life’s ups and downs is the most honest and forthright way to approach life. By getting a clear sense of roadblocks and set-backs, we discover the most effective way to easily overcome them.
So what do you do when you deal the distasteful?
One of the things I have discovered for myself is that as long as I know all the permutations of the card, the image the client sees does not necessarily have to be strongly affective. I stopped using my beloved Morgan Greer deck with in-person clients when too often the unusual Devil card, with its stark image, angry red circling a shaggy black goat’s face and that eerie black housefly in an inverted pentagram, caused people to visibly jump or close down energetically. We can help people best when they are open to the reading and trust that we will help them find solutions.
Likewise, I found that too much nudity can derail a reading. One reader I knew took all the naked cards out of his deck to work with his psychotherapy clients. I thought this was extreme—there are certainly plenty of decks available with no nudity. Once a friend, a college age man, was over at my apartment visiting. He reached down and grabbed one of the decks off the bookcase next to the chair he was sitting in and began thumbing through it. He suddenly said, “Oh my. These are graphic.” He had grabbed the Robin Wood deck. If my cards can embarrass a young man, they probably don’t need to be on my client table. (I continued to use that deck for phone readings.)
That said, I was working as a reader in a metaphysical store and a woman started asking questions about decks. She was old (to me), gray hair, maybe in her 60s, maybe older. I brought out the store’s box of sample decks and we started looking through it. She liked the Robin Wood so I intentionally (but without saying anything) dug through and pulled out a number of cards, including some with the more graphic nudity. “Oh!” She exclaimed. “This one’s a little naughty!” She looked over several other decks, and in the end finally concluded, “I like that deck with the lovely art, and I like that it’s a little naughty.” She ended up buying it.
I was reading at a local restaurant and bar once with my Druidcraft deck. A male client in his 50s sat down and in the spread we pulled the Lovers card. That card shows a man and women engaged in coitus out in the woods with a deer looking on. When I turned that card over the man seemed to get uncomfortable and energetically and physically turned away—he wouldn’t look at the card. I said he needed to find a relationship/sex partner, but he consistently denied it. Again, I decided that the card image was not helping my work as a reader and the deck became relegated to a personal deck (and one of my favorites!).
To be clear, it is the level of detail that determines if a card is too graphic for a client’s comfort. Some of my favorite client decks, including the Legacy of the Divine and the Tarot of the Old Path, have plenty of nudity, but it is implied, suggested, veiled, or simply lacking the level of detail that the naughty decks have.
Sometimes in client readings we deal the distasteful. But if a card image is violent, scary, or discomforting enough that the client closes down energetically, they are less open to change, possibility, or healing, they fail to trust the process, and our job is made more difficult. If a card is too distasteful it will be repressed. But if we use images that the the client can be open to and trust, then the difficult card can be integrated and overcome.
Joy Vernon has been studying and teaching energetic and esoteric modalities for more than twenty years. She is the organizer of the Denver Tarot Geeks, Denver Tarot Meetup and Denver Traditional Reiki Meetup, and she served on the faculty of Avalon Center for Druidic Studies. She is one of the psychics at Isis Books and is a Certified Professional Tarot Reader and a member of the American Tarot Association and Tarosophy Tarot Association. Joy also teaches Traditional Japanese Reiki. For information on upcoming classes or to schedule an appointment, please visit JoyVernon.com.
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